Work Coach Cafe

I got a great comment from one of my readers, N.W.. She was responding to another comment from Stuck and Sad who is trapped in a job she can’t stand with a boss who drives her crazy.

With her permission, I’m sharing N.W.’s passionate and compassionate advice to Stuck and Sad:

Stuck and Sad,

I was in your shoes exactly. In addition to flitting from issue to issue and being unable to stick to an agenda, I’m sure my boss (the owner of the company) had some real psychological issues, as she could be overly nice one day, then raging and irrational the next. I was there for years, in a management position with good pay, and most of the time I felt “stuck and sad” like you.

But then, one day I had an opportunity to get out in the most positive light possible: maternity leave. I took this time to really think about myself and my life and decided that even if I had to tough it out for a few months, I’d quit my job and try to find something else. I’m still looking for the right full-time job, while doing some freelance work, but I’m a much happier person than I ever was in my old, stress-inducing position. I learned from first-hand experience that money does not buy happiness.

Much better to find a way to move on if you possibly can, and get away from being “stuck and sad” all the time. Life is too short.

Now I’m not saying you should all run out and get pregnant - especially the men. But there are real words of wisdom there. My basic feeling is to do whatever you can to help improve things for yourself, but if nothing helps and it’s eating at your spirit…then get out as soon as you can!

And by the way…times of change like this are a great opportunity to do some soul-searching and try not to recreate the same situation for yourself in the next job. Your crappy boss and job may wind up being the best thing that ever happened to you if it gives you the kick you need to go find something you really love!

I wish you all luck finding that. And thanks D.W. for sharing your own story and advice. Don’t I have the smartest readers?

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In case you’re curious, here’s the post where D.W. offered Stuck and Sad her thoughts:

My Job Sucks and Now I’m Stuck!