Is It Your Job or YOU That’s Driving You Crazy?

I just had a wonderful e-mail from one of my readers who had been looking for a job for many MANY months with no success. At least not the type of success he thought he was looking for!

Basically he (let’s call him Jim) started his job search because he was miserable with his current job and the way he was being treated; and so he decided it was time to look for a new job – a better job. But after a long search with little results other than jobs that looked no better than what he already had, he started thinking about where he was and whether he could make it work for himself after all.

At first it was just resignation – sort of “Oh well…I’m stuck here and I’ll just have to get through the day and then focus on other things to stay sane.” But if he had left it at that, I wouldn’t be telling you about it.

Remember the movie Dead Poets Society? Robin Williams is a teacher who has his students get up on his desk and look at the room from a different height and angle. Perspective. And that’s what Jim did. He decided to take another look at his job and his boss and change his perspective just a little.

He thought about what was driving him crazy and decided he was going to do something about it. No…he didn’t get absolutely everyone and everything to change to what HE wanted it to be. He realized if he had power to change anything it was only himself he could change for sure.

Now what you change can be different for each person. For one thing, Jim adjusted his attitude toward his boss who often drove him nuts. He realized he was watching his boss and getting mad because he wasn’t behaving the way Jim thought a good boss should. And although Jim may technically have been right, he was the one losing. So he decided to get a kick out of his boss instead of feeling irritated. Small shift. Sounds like nothing much at all. And in reality it isn’t. Except now his days are better. And that’s everything!

Oh…it’s not that the job is perfect for Jim now. But he’s simply not upset all the time. And suddenly, a lot of the stuff that seemed so important and so annoying…well, it just isn’t.

Maybe it’s the attitude change. Maybe it’s the fact that Jim put the power back into his own hands. But whatever it is, he’s happier now and doesn’t need to look for a new job elsewhere. He found it right where he is!

Good luck, Jim. I’m SOOOO proud of you. 😉

Ronnie Ann

 

About the author…

Ronnie Ann, founder of Work Coach Cafe, bases her real-world advice on her many years as an organizational consultant where she helped interview and hire people, added to a certificate from NYU in Career Planning & Development and her own adventures as a serial job seeker. She can also be found on her new blog, and on Google+.

Comments

  1. that makes me smile! Good for Jim and for you for sharing!

  2. Thanks for the visit. Always happy to help make you smile, SE. 😉

    Ronnie Ann

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